There’s a film which some people (me) like to watch at Christmas called The Holiday. It’s a terrible film, which includes a character who is both unable to cry and has been gaslighted by her ex into believing she’s bad at sex. It includes an exchange about foreplay being overrated; it’s trash. But, it’s festive trash. Anyway, the opening scene of the film involves Kate […]
Dating / Polyamory
The Best Things About Polyamory
“So, what’s the big deal with polyamory, anyway?” The freedom to be myself I have the freedom to surround myself with the relationships I want to, the ones that work for me. I have the freedom to explore whatever I need to. I have the freedom to form bonds with those who enhance me. I have the freedom to become more independent and not rely […]
Dating / Polyamory
Swiping Right: Who I Date
The continual swipe left is giving me RSI. One after the other, faces rush past, faces that don’t seize or intrigue or attract me. They appear like ghosts; fleeting and morbid. The ghosts of future bad choices, of heartbreak, of misplaced humour, and of inevitable ghosting. Each and every one makes me feel a mixture of guilt and self-disgust, with a sprinkle of hope that […]
Erotica / Polyamory / Sexual Encounters
I Love Hotels: The Getaway
I love how you squeeze my arse as we check in. You’re definitely signalling to the well-to-do older couple waiting behind us, showing off that you get to touch me. You’re always like this. Outside, I’m focused on exchanging bland pleasantries with the receptionist, while inside I’m imagining your fingers seeking the tender skin between my cheeks. The receptionist tells us to enjoy our stay […]
Dating / Polyamory
My Polyamory Isn’t Weird
Recently at a party (a party where I wasn’t present, perhaps crucially) one friend told another how weird they find my relationship. Specifically weird was how I’m friends with my partner’s girlfriend*. Even more specific still, the friend found it weird how we sat next to each other, chatting and laughing, at a recent gathering for my partner’s birthday. They found it weird that we […]